
Enlightened relationships©
The way of Love
“The path isn’t a straight line; it’s a spiral. You continually come back to things you thought you understood and see deeper truths.”
Barry H. Gillespie

Welcome to our webpage! Are you passionate about improving your relationships? Would you love to add a few powerful proven relationship building tools to your life’s toolbox portfolio? In hundreds of lectures, seminars and workshops we have found that group work to be the most impactful way to help people improve their life and relationship skills. Our groups provide a safe environment where people are open to relationship advice (that otherwise can be hard to hear), they learn from each other and reflect on how to integrate the teachings into their lives and relationships without feeling embarrassed or defensive. We are Drs. Gabriela Ilie and Rob Rutledge, and we hope you will journey with us though a remarkable process of awakening, self-discovery and spiritual reflection to create a new vision of what is possible in a truly loving, happy, healthy and fulfilling relationships. In our capacities as both a professor, oncologist and workshop facilitators, we have taught over 30,000 people from 200 countries, in many capacities, as both professor, and workshop facilitators, including audiences of students, colleagues in the scientific community, couples, cancer survivors and their loved ones, and health care professionals. The teaching is based on science, and draws on our educational background in medicine, cross-cultural psychology and neuroscience, quality of life research, and our experience as professors, presenters and entrepreneurs, as well as our individual spiritual journey. We look forward to seeing you in one of our events!

Event offerings by Gabriela and Rob:
Relationship Empowerment through better Communication, Intimacy and Connection
Discover CancerPEP.com — a free, evidence-based wellness program designed for anyone living with or beyond cancer. Whether you’re newly diagnosed or navigating survivorship, CancerPEP offers daily guidance, tools, and community support to help you heal, strengthen, and thrive.
Explore PCPEP.org — a free, clinically tested program created specifically for men with prostate cancer. With daily videos, exercise, nutrition, stress reduction, and connection tools, PC-PEP empowers you to take an active role in your recovery and long-term well-being.
Visit PEPLife.org — a free, science-based program for anyone living with a chronic condition or simply seeking a healthier, more empowered life. Through daily videos, simple tools, and supportive guidance, PEP Life helps you build strength, resilience, and a deeper sense of well-being.
We invite you to watch Empower — a moving documentary that follows the lives of people facing cancer and chronic illness who discover strength, healing, and hope through the Patient Empowerment Program. Their stories reveal the power of connection, daily action, and inner resilience — and may just inspire your own transformation.
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What people have to say
“Gabriela and Rob’s teachings on couples communication and connection helped us start talking again the way we used to, sharing from the heart without guilt or judgement. I didn’t think that would be possible after everything we’ve been through. The tools of communication we learned during the seminar helped us bring back the intimacy in our relationship, the anticipation, the humour. But the most important thing is that it brought back the joy of us being together, and that is what we really thought we had lost.” S.J.